This “Friends” video was made by asking groups of women “What do you love about your body?”
And then asking them “What do you love about your friend’s body?”
Can you guess the reactions to each?
It’s all too easy to see the things we like and admire in other people. But we don’t seem as adept at seeing those things in ourselves. According to a global piece of research, The Real Truth About Beauty: Revisited, only 4% of women think they are beautiful. Why do we default to such a critical opinion of ourselves?
Each of us is a unique individual; the sum of our cultures, families, backgrounds, choices, lifestyles and more. By constantly comparing ourselves to selective aspects of those around us, we are creating an impossible ideal; and one we could never live up to.
It’s important to recognize what is beautiful about our appearance, but also remember that’s not the whole story.
Try our action checklist with your daughter and learn how to start giving yourself compliments as well as your friends.
Spend some time exploring the topic with your daughter: Watch the “Friends” video together, and then see if you can think of five things you like about one another and five things you each like about yourselves. Focus on both the inside and the outside: physicality, personality and character.
Talk to your friends about things other than appearance: Show your friends that you value their personalities and other characteristics by complimenting them on aspects other than their appearance.
Apply the “what would my best friend say?” test. Next time you’re being tough on yourself about how you look, remember the “Friends” video. What would your best friend say to you if she was there? Use the encouragement you know she’d give you to stop the self-criticism.
The Real Truth About Beauty: Revisited
What do you like about your body?
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Article date: 01 July 2013
Review date: 01 July 2014
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